Post by Beth Personal on Feb 26, 2012 23:55:55 GMT
Write about a relationship that has changed greatly
Being young and brought up with your mum alone, is just confusing, lots of questions cross my mind each day more so now I am older and understand more. My mum and I are both very similar but our similarities are what seem to break us more apart each time we argue.
Knowing that your dad is not around, and the reason for this is because he has chosen to leave, is one of the hardest things to get your head around. Also something I will have to deal with it for all my life. Five years old is when he left ever since then my relationship with my mum has gone downhill. I was an angry child and coping with me was hard for anyone. My grandpa was the only father figure I had to keep me mentally stable and he helped to keep my life balanced. As he taught Evie my younger sister and I what having a real dad was truly like.
When I hit thirteen I changed completely I was a very rebellious teen and I cared about nothing and know one. My antics were the reason for my relationship with my mum going downhill. Weekends living with me, I realise now must have been chaotic – I drank alcohol and stayed out very late, even was brought home by the police on an occasion. My mum disliked me each day more and more, I never got phased by it at all. She started to say things like “I love you, but I don’t like you”, which was when I knew I had ruined everything, and I don’t know why I didn’t stop.
I think my antics may have also spiralled out of control because my mum started a relationship with Kenny, at first I thought it was going to be a short relationship I never thought he and his family would ever be a part of our lives. Obviously I hadn’t had a due. The relationship got stronger and stronger all of a sudden I was going to Kenny’s family parties, he was always at my house and if he wasn’t we were at his. The funny thing is I liked Kenny, I still do but something about the situation triggered anger in me which I took out on everyone, especially my mum but to be honest she did the exact same to me, anytime her and Kenny argued or she wasn’t in a good mood, I was in the firing line. At this point, this is when I realised this might just be out problem.
When we moved in with Kenny and his two daughters, Aimee and Emily my mum and I’s relationship took a turn for the worst we could never see eye to eye about anything, couple of months ago we maybe agreed on a couple of things but never nothing. To make matters worse Emily and my mum were bonding, as our relationship was falling apart.
Couple more months of living in Kenny’s world and we had to more out, my mum and Kenny’s faults in their relationships took over and my behaviour proved too much for everyone living in the house so we decided to move out. Moving out the strain away and as soon as we got back to our house the relationship got better and better. I started to behave move as soon as I had this my mum began to open up to me and began to be more interested in me as a person and I felt like she really was beginning to understand me and I felt the same with her it was finally like we were getting somewhere.
Now I am more mature, I find it embarrassing reflecting on my behaviour and realising how much our relationship was very childlike. We occasionally have our fallouts over stupid things but now we have learned to laugh about situations instead of holding a grudge I intend to keep my respect for my mum and try to make her as pleased with me as she can. I have now realised the stress that she has dealt with in the past is hard enough for her to deal with in the past is hard enough for her to deal with without me constantly making everything more hard.